<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[The Listening Space]]></title><description><![CDATA[the-listening-space]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Mon, 11 May 2026 21:11:49 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Your Amazing Brain]]></title><description><![CDATA[When it comes to understanding the way you think, feel and behave, it is useful to have an awareness of how your brain works. This is...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/your-amazing-brain</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6818a16ff0457602a0ff7b48</guid><pubDate>Mon, 05 May 2025 11:31:37 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_784acd4030fb4ba783947bb2bbfa6d1e~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_794,h_688,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Being with Discomfort: the Essence of Wellbeing]]></title><description><![CDATA[Uncomfortable feelings are part of what it means to be human, but we don’t always know what to do with them. One way of seeing these feelings is to imagine them to be like a Ball of Discomfort. This ball represents the energy of our emotions. We experience this energy as physical sensations in the body. For example, we might feel a tightening in the stomach and a racing heart when fearful.   Emotional energy is part of our survival mechanism. It motivates us to move towards safety and away...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/being-with-discomfort-the-essence-of-wellbeing</link><guid isPermaLink="false">67682770d361a658c707ce96</guid><pubDate>Tue, 24 Dec 2024 12:38:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_041d8cfb49a84cf4baca1b7138454512~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Circles of Agency and Concern]]></title><description><![CDATA[Do you ever find yourself pulled in all directions, trying to meet the needs of others? Or frustrated by the things that others do?...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/circles-of-agency-and-concern</link><guid isPermaLink="false">66615f1bae6dbd6eee145f12</guid><pubDate>Thu, 06 Jun 2024 11:32:03 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_8e69c1fc494c4f8187759e0fccb6e6a2~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_964,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Space to be Heard]]></title><description><![CDATA[Do you ever find yourself in a conversation with someone and they seem distracted, not really paying attention to what you are saying? Or they end up interrupting you with their opinions and advice? They ‘speak into your  life’, telling you what you should be thinking and doing. You end up holding back a little or telling them what you think they want to hear.   Perhaps there are times when you find yourself doing the same to others: your mind is elsewhere, you interrupt, you offer your...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/a-space-to-be-heard</link><guid isPermaLink="false">66139b1691f7e0f9960d45a9</guid><pubDate>Mon, 08 Apr 2024 07:36:15 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_642c412ceab741dca49b2ac2de7073a2~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Few Questions to Help Brighten Your Day]]></title><description><![CDATA[The Listening Space  is a process that uses a specific set of questions (called Clean questions ) to help you explore what is on your mind in a way that can be constructive and very creative. What follows is a lovely story that was shared with me by a friend who held a Listening Space for someone she encountered in her local park. It helped him to settle his anxiety and bring some lightness to his day. "I was sitting on a bench in my local park – a place I love to go to unwind – when I was...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/a-few-questions-to-help-brighten-your-day</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65525a267c1c1348e1c03634</guid><pubDate>Thu, 14 Mar 2024 10:19:55 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_95404a62071d43378cc768d1863ea73a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_797,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Building Understanding in Relationships]]></title><description><![CDATA[Healthy relationships are built on reciprocal respect and consideration. They are built on understanding that comes through dialogue, where each person is an equal partner in the communication exchange, prepared to be influenced and affected by what the other says. Conversations become an opportunity to see the world as others do – rather than taking their thoughts and feelings as a personal attack. Dramas can be aired and become a springboard for collaborative problem-solving (you can learn...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/building-understanding-in-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">65cb6b0a0eb5563597bb2066</guid><pubDate>Wed, 14 Feb 2024 10:46:01 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_9ffdc98c189d4d538fc5f4e54885f90c~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Hurdle of Expectations]]></title><description><![CDATA[When things turn out the way you had wanted them to, or maybe even better than expected, it can feel great. Whether this be a project at work, a night out with friends, time spent with family, or enjoying a hobby. But, of course, things don’t always turn out the way we want them to and we can find ourselves feeling disappointed and frustrated. When this happens, it can be helpful to dig a little deeper beneath the expectations you had held for the situation. Beneath your expectations you will...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-hurdle-of-expectations</link><guid isPermaLink="false">654fa93187a23dc9f23ba63d</guid><category><![CDATA[managing stress]]></category><pubDate>Tue, 05 Dec 2023 15:00:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_8aae12b162064ddaa025a31b46386b04~mv2.jpeg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Finding Another Way]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’d like to share a story told to me by a coach who chose to use the Listening Space  process with a client. This client was coming to terms with a recent diagnosis of ADHD: This client was wanting to understand himself better, to figure out how to be himself. He was using emotive language so I thought that asking the Listening Space questions might be helpful for him. The focus word for his exploration came quite easily. The word was ‘exhausting’, a word he had used a few times. He was...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/finding-another-way</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6544d8bfb550b7b2c14ec813</guid><pubDate>Fri, 03 Nov 2023 11:31:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_7fc634ba653e41f1b06a78ff37051352~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Drama Triangle: Part 4]]></title><description><![CDATA[This is the final in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-drama-triangle-part-4</link><guid isPermaLink="false">60f6d6acaee5eb0015a431d1</guid><category><![CDATA[managing emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulawareness]]></category><category><![CDATA[wellbeing]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing stress]]></category><category><![CDATA[listening]]></category><category><![CDATA[clean listening]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 26 Jul 2021 11:46:56 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_080e4589263242199db1530112f05f33~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_805,h_450,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Drama Triangle: Part 3]]></title><description><![CDATA[This is the third in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-drama-triangle-part-3</link><guid isPermaLink="false">60afd4d80befcb001590cbe5</guid><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[meditation]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulawareness]]></category><category><![CDATA[wellbeing]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing stress]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 28 Jun 2021 12:53:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_080e4589263242199db1530112f05f33~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_805,h_450,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Drama Triangle: Part 2]]></title><description><![CDATA[In my previous blog  I wrote about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as a means of identifying the kind of thinking we are doing when...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-drama-triangle-part-2</link><guid isPermaLink="false">60a89b1bf246df00155cd30a</guid><category><![CDATA[Clean questions]]></category><category><![CDATA[Clean language]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[meditation]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulawareness]]></category><category><![CDATA[wellbeing]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing stress]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 23 May 2021 18:25:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_080e4589263242199db1530112f05f33~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_805,h_450,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Drama Triangle: Part 1]]></title><description><![CDATA[Do you find yourself getting frustrated with others at times? Or feeling resentful about the things you feel obliged to do? Perhaps there...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-drama-triangle-part-1</link><guid isPermaLink="false">605205fa9abeaf00414ad054</guid><category><![CDATA[managing emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[wellbeing]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 17 Mar 2021 15:28:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_080e4589263242199db1530112f05f33~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_805,h_450,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Pressure of Time]]></title><description><![CDATA[Metaphors  describe one thing in terms of another and give form to things which are otherwise difficult to describe. Suppose, for example, someone says that trying to stay in control is creating a ‘tension all around the top half of my body, like big iron armour crushing inwards’ , we get a very graphic sense of how this person is experiencing their situation from the metaphor they have used.  Metaphors are not simply a figure of speech; they play a fundamental role in the way we understand...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/the-pressure-of-time</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5fd64a4dfd9b9f00175330d7</guid><pubDate>Sun, 13 Dec 2020 17:13:59 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_9cd801148d95401eb1b31081efaea35f~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Calming a Busy Mind]]></title><description><![CDATA[Clean questions  are a great way of helping someone to bring mindful awareness  to their inner experience. By repeating back the other person's words and asking these questions in a specific order, you can create a Listening Space  for them. People often experience a sense of greater calm when this happens.  One participant from a recent Listening Space course , Cheryl, explained how she had used these questions in her coaching work with surprising effect. She was working with Tom, a...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/calming-a-busy-mind</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5f6641f75d6b6d0017ec597b</guid><category><![CDATA[Clean questions]]></category><category><![CDATA[Clean language]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[meditation]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulness]]></category><category><![CDATA[mindfulawareness]]></category><category><![CDATA[wellbeing]]></category><category><![CDATA[attention deficit disorder]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing stress]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 21 Sep 2020 06:57:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_2d501e6e26474f0b834adc987e06c4df~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA['Locked up' in Lockdown]]></title><description><![CDATA[Over the past few months of lockdown, parents across the world have had to take on the role of teacher as they home-school their children. This new role has brought both its rewards and its challenges. Some have enjoyed a slower pace of life and a break in the school routine. But there have also been moments of frustration and frayed tempers – for parent and child alike!  During a recent Listening Space course, a mother of two young children described how Clean questions  gave her a way to...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/locked-up-in-lockdown</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5ef82b07a2e29b0017ac8a6e</guid><category><![CDATA[Clean questions]]></category><category><![CDATA[Clean language]]></category><category><![CDATA[managing emotions]]></category><category><![CDATA[home-schooling]]></category><category><![CDATA[parenting]]></category><category><![CDATA[parents]]></category><category><![CDATA[teaching]]></category><category><![CDATA[children]]></category><category><![CDATA[emotions]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2020 05:34:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_4f700e9225e24d42a3ecaeef7311962a~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Father's Love Divided]]></title><description><![CDATA[Over the past 6 months I have been doing some research for a book that I am writing. It's all about bringing a different kind of listening to family life. As a result, I have been witness to some amazing stories unfold as individual parents explore what is on their mind in a Listening Space  - a process that involves a combination of repeating key words the other person has used and asking them Clean questions .  What follows is the transcript from one such session in which a father explores...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/2020/01/27/a-fathers-love-divided</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5e31aa61a46d2c0017a573e1</guid><pubDate>Mon, 27 Jan 2020 17:36:28 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_cab843a9abe94dc9aba9e87b5807f02a~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_876,h_715,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Bringing a Moment of Calm to the Festive Season]]></title><description><![CDATA[Managing the sense of 'busy-ness' that life can bring: using Clean questions to bring a moment of calm reflection and connect with w]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/2019/12/01/bringing-a-moment-of-calm-to-the-festive-season</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5e31aa60e3f5c30017e2e59d</guid><pubDate>Sun, 01 Dec 2019 14:28:13 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_6cc0546a27f34ac8ad73fb9346406d5f~mv2_d_1920_1440_s_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[A Listening Space for Parents]]></title><description><![CDATA[I’ve recently started running  Listening Space  courses for parents  in which participants are: introduced to models of human behaviour to help them understand their own thoughts and emotions better – such as Steve Peters’ Chimp Paradox   experience powerful new ways of listening deeply to themselves and to others using Clean Language  questions, and  are given tools to help nurture healthy relationships within the family. I interviewed one participant, whose children are 8 and 6 years old,...]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/2019/10/30/a-listening-space-for-parents</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5e31aa618d7e8100171a403f</guid><pubDate>Wed, 30 Oct 2019 16:37:56 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_039ddc28ae4149a5bd35dc3649d74289~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_521,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Captured Moments: Poems Inspired by a Listening Space]]></title><description><![CDATA[Over the past few years I have noticed that if I sit still for long enough to ‘capture the moment’, a poem appears.  And if I find myself gr]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/2019/02/24/poems-inspired-by-a-listening-space</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5e31aa604d752900179b5c01</guid><pubDate>Sun, 20 Oct 2019 14:53:21 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_84d8d4a1dc654ec7bc407e8f7a076136~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_483,h_739,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Getting to the Heart of the Matter]]></title><description><![CDATA[Clean questions  can transform the way that you listen. One participant from a recent Listening Space course, Mark, describes how he found himself switching to a very different kind of listening as he used these questions in a conversation with his colleague, Anna. She was telling him about how she was struggling to make a decision about a promotion she had been approached to apply for.  Rather than going into his usual ‘fix-it’ mode, Mark decided to just sit back and listen as Anna talked....]]></description><link>https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/post/2019/05/31/getting-to-the-heart-of-the-matter</link><guid isPermaLink="false">5e31aa60e224b9001777e8c5</guid><pubDate>Fri, 31 May 2019 06:56:33 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/e58492_757845d39b114ce48faee43521ddb926~mv2_d_1920_1322_s_2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Tamsin Hartley</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>