When things turn out the way you had wanted them to, or maybe even better than expected, it can feel great. Whether this be a project at work, a night out with friends, time spent with family, or enjoying a hobby. But, of course, things don’t always turn out the way we want them to and we can find ourselves feeling disappointed and frustrated. When this happens, it can be helpful to dig a little deeper beneath the expectations you had held for the situation. Beneath your expe

I’d like to share a story recently told to me by a coach who chose to use the Listening Space process with a client. This client was coming to terms with a recent diagnosis of ADHD: This client was wanting to understand himself better, to figure out how to be himself. He was using emotive language so I thought that asking the Listening Space questions might be helpful for him. The focus word for his exploration came quite easily. The word was ‘exhausting’, a word he had used

This is the final in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...

This is the third in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...

In my previous blog I wrote about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as a means of identifying the kind of thinking we are doing when...

Do you find yourself getting frustrated with others at times? Or feeling resentful about the things you feel obliged to do? Perhaps there...

Metaphors describe one thing in terms of another and give form to things which are otherwise difficult to describe. Suppose, for example, someone says that trying to stay in control is creating a ‘tension all around the top half of my body, like big iron armour crushing inwards’ , we get a very graphic sense of how this person is experiencing their situation from the metaphor they have used. Metaphors are not simply a figure of speech; they play a fundamental role in the wa

Clean questions are a great way of helping someone to bring mindful awareness to their inner experience. By repeating back the other person's words and asking these questions in a specific order, you can create a Listening Space for them. People often experience a sense of greater calm when this happens. One participant from a recent Listening Space course , Cheryl, explained how she had used these questions in her coaching work with surprising effect. She was working wit