Tamsin HartleyJul 26, 20218 minThe Drama Triangle: Part 4This is the final in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...
Tamsin HartleyJun 28, 20213 minThe Drama Triangle: Part 3This is the third in a series of four blogs about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as means of identifying the kind of thinking we are...
Tamsin HartleyMay 23, 20213 minThe Drama Triangle: Part 2In my previous blog I wrote about how the Drama Triangle* can be used as a means of identifying the kind of thinking we are doing when...
Tamsin HartleyMar 17, 20215 minThe Drama Triangle: Part 1Do you find yourself getting frustrated with others at times? Or feeling resentful about the things you feel obliged to do? Perhaps there...
Tamsin HartleyDec 13, 20204 minThe pressure of timeMetaphors describe one thing in terms of another and give form to things which are otherwise difficult to describe. Suppose, for example,...
Tamsin HartleySep 21, 20203 minCalming a busy mindClean questions are a great way of helping someone to bring mindful awareness to their inner experience. By repeating back the other...
Tamsin HartleyJun 28, 20203 min'Locked up' in lockdownOver the past few months of lockdown, parents across the world have had to take on the role of teacher as they home-school their...
Tamsin HartleyJan 27, 20206 minA father's love dividedOver the past 6 months I have been doing some research for a book that I am writing. It's all about bringing a different kind of...
Tamsin HartleyDec 1, 20193 minBringing a moment of calm to the festive seasonManaging the sense of 'busy-ness' that life can bring: using Clean questions to bring a moment of calm reflection and connect with w
Tamsin HartleyOct 30, 20193 minA Listening Space for parentsI’ve recently started running Listening Space courses for parents in which participants are: introduced to models of human behaviour to...
Tamsin HartleyOct 20, 20192 minCaptured Moments: poems inspired by a Listening SpaceOver the past few years I have noticed that if I sit still for long enough to ‘capture the moment’, a poem appears. And if I find myself gr
Tamsin HartleyMay 31, 20192 minGetting to the heart of the matterClean questions can transform the way that you listen. One participant from a recent Listening Space course, Mark, describes how he found...
Tamsin HartleyJan 17, 20193 minA creative look at the year aheadTaking time to reflect on what's important to you can be a great antidote to all the busy-ness of our everyday lives. This blog invites
Tamsin HartleyDec 15, 20183 minBridging an unreachable gapTeenage life comes with its ups and downs, bringing with it emotions that can feel confusing and overwhelming at times. As a parent of a...
Tamsin HartleyNov 12, 20183 minHelping children manage their emotions: part 3A music teacher friend recently shared her experience of working with a pupil who has Asperger's syndrome and struggles to manage his em
Tamsin HartleyNov 12, 20181 minHelping children manage their emotions: part 1Asking a child Clean questions can help them understand their emotions better so that they can deal more calmly with the ups and downs of th
Tamsin HartleyNov 12, 20182 minHelping children manage their emotions: part 2I’d like to introduce you to Sophie – a mother of two young children; Ella, who is eight years old, and Sam, who is five. Having found...
Tamsin HartleyOct 15, 201814 minNavigating the challenges of chronic illnessI recently interviewed Annie Rappeport, a 32 year-old American PhD student, about her experience of chronic illness as part of a...
Tamsin HartleySep 23, 20184 minResisting the pull to rescueWhat happens if we resist the temptation to rescue? If we are willing to sit alongside a person in their discomfort rather than go into ‘fi
Tamsin HartleyAug 24, 20182 minKeeping the conversation goingClean questions help to keep a conversation going without me having to think of clever things to say.